Beloved Daughter
I hope this letter finds you well. As I was pondering on your birth, growth, and future, I couldn’t help pen this letter to express my emotions, feelings, and the little wisdom I have mustered from my twenty-seven years of existence on earth.
Mindful of the fact that you are going to come into this world a girl, a woman in waiting; it is paramount dear daughter, to realise that your virginity is not for sale. You are God’s masterpiece, his own handiwork, don’t let any man in this world treat you any less or make you believe or act any less. My daughter, my bubble girl, my bundle of joy, my most treasured ornament, the blood of my blood, my precious one: never be fooled by being lured into proving your love for anyone through sideshows of sex before marriage. That is a sideshow and a distraction from the true love you can receive or give to any man. Cognisant of the fact that to err is human and you are going to be a member of the human race, you may make a mistake, a mistake of falling into fornication, nonetheless, never make it a lifestyle and playstyle by practicing it perpetually and habitually. That could be a detriment to your physical, social, emotional, spiritual, and economic wellbeing.
Making mistakes is a clear sign that you have conquered the fear to attempt.
As I have mentioned earlier on my daughter, humans make mistakes. You too will make mistakes my angel, yes, you will. The greatest mistake you can make, however, is to deny yourself the opportunity to chase your dreams because of the fear of making a mistake. Yes, my daughter, I will say it again; the greatest of all mistakes is to never make mistakes. It is wise to allow yourself to make mistakes. Make mistakes with my blessing but never ever repeat the same mistake over and over again. It is wise to make a mistake, but it is foolhardy to repeat a mistake. Use mistakes as the most practical lessons and tutorials of life. A mistake is similar to human-beings as teachers and lecturers are to students at academic institutions. Mistakes are potential facilitators of learning in life. Accept your mistakes, learn from them, and use them as launch pads to better levels of wisdom and effectiveness. Making mistakes is a clear sign that you have conquered the fear to attempt. Those who have shunned making mistakes have parked at the lay bay of the highway to success and ultimate greatness.
My daughter, I wrote this letter with the hope that one day you will read it. Moreover, I wrote this epistle with the awareness that someone else will read this since it is open. Ostensibly, it is both correct and accurate that whoever is reading this piece of writing has a certain skill called literacy, the ability to read and write. That skill is the foundation and the vehicle to your greatness. Use it to the maximum. Many have the ability to read, a great and common attribute of the people of the twenty-first century. Nevertheless, even though I exhorted you to make mistakes, it is so ironic that I want you to avoid the mistake of reading for the purpose of passing examinations and communication only. My daughter, most of the reading that will take you to the top in life is reading for personal edification. Read even if you are not preparing for exams. Read to sharpen your leadership ideology and approach as well as nourish your approach to life and its challenges. Leaders are readers, if you don’t read you are no better than an individual who lived in ancient times past without the ability to read. A leader who does not read is indeed a consumer of resources, like a broiler chick which eats without gaining any weight.
It is not enough to know! You should apply what you know!
My daughter, be in the business of spending much of your time reading. Reading expands your knowledge base. A knowledgeable person is not an inferior person. If you are ignorant some people will take advantage of you, convincing you that all they do is to help you. You see, my daughter, without knowledge some people will take you for a ride. When you grow up, you shouldn’t go into marriage with only hips and thighs, but with knowledge and ideas evidenced by your credentials, reasoning, and solution provisions. It is not enough to know! You should apply what you know! To know and not to do what you know is as good as not knowing. Your life will be transformed not by the aggregate knowledge you harbour but by the quantum knowledge you apply in real-life situations. My daughter, we are having professors and Ph.D. holders who are leading institutions and organizations that are in a ‘sorry state’, due to their inability to apply the wealth of knowledge they have amassed. Isn’t it a pity? To your knowledge, add wisdom, my daughter.
It is possible to have many diplomas, degrees and academic accolades and worse still remain stupid and foolish. It is possible to be very educated and foolish simultaneously. You need wisdom in as much as you need knowledge in order to materialize/actualize your potential to the fullest. Knowledge is obtained through learning, but wisdom comes through divine provision. Ask for wisdom from the Creator of the universe through prayer and open yourself up to wisdom from above, through following God’s precepts, concepts, and principles enshrined in his word – The Holy Bible.
My dearest daughter, femininity is not a handicap. You are not inferior to man. Human potential is not predetermined according to gender. Perennial wisdom from human experience and divine revelation has it that women can make it in this life. Yes. People like Danai Gurira, Mother Theresa, Theresa May, Winnie Mandela, Cindy Grimm, and Oprah Winfrey among others are eloquent and articulate testimonies of the possibility of women rising to top echelons of success in their fields of endeavour. Dare to venture even in male-dominated spaces of life. You too can make it there.
YES you can!
I’m looking forward to seeing you happy, healthy, and excelling as if it is illegal to be average.
Your loving dad
Elton Gomori
This article was first published on 21 May 2018, in Spiked News Online ZW.
The writer, Elton Gomori, is an author, charismatic public speaker, debator, master of ceremonies, columnist, pastor, academic and award-winning writer. He can be contacted on +263 773 483 403, or via email on eltongomori@gmail.com
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